Wild curls, fluffy and almost alive with their unruliness, my hair would have taken a very, very trained hand to manage. Of course, neither one of my parents qualified. My poor father, however, had even less of a chance than my mother with his military-style high and tight. He had no chance at all.
It didn't help that I was tender-headed. For those of you who don't wrangle coarse, curly hair every day, "tender-headed" is the label cast onto girls who can't manage to handle the ripping, scraping, and pulling necessary with aplomb. I was definitely, thoroughly one of those girls. I would cry and pull away and wince and declaim whomever had the nerve to try to make me look presentable. For my mother, there was an acceptable solution; cut it off. Short hair for days (T-Boz, I still love you!). My father, on the other hand, wanted me to be acceptable above all else. Beautiful, even, if it was possible.
Most days he left my wild hair alone. Come pictures or a family event, though, everything changed. He would sit me down on the floor in front of the couch, put something distracting on T.V. He hoped for the best. Brushes, combs, oils, creams, hair ties, rubber bands - every weapon he could find was appropriated and scattered around me on the floor. I remember him pulling my hair taut, smearing some oily, scented product around my hairline, scraping a stiff boar-bristled brush along my skull, my whining hopefully drowned out by the cheerful singing of a candy-coated cartoon.
It rarely worked.
The end result was, perhaps, predictable. My skin pulled taut, my eyes narrowed, my hair so far gone as to be nearly non-existent. The pictures were awful. No, truly. Awful. I don't think even my father approved of the final result. It wasn't pretty, or acceptable. But it also wasn't a curly, fluffy, rat's nest of a disaster.
When I sat down to write this blog, this Father's Day blog, this is what came to mind. This image of my classically masculine father sitting down and teaching himself to do something completely outside of his experience or knowledge-base. This image of him looking through shelves and shelves of mystery products, lost in the labels and descriptions and selling points. I see him talking to various sales people, to hair dressers, to anyone who might be able to help him navigate the strange world of his daughter's hair.
This is what it means to be a father, I think. And this is why we say thank you.
So thank you, dad, and Happy Father's Day!
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